Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Pet Peeve Day

pet peeve-noun. Particular and often continual annoyance.


An extended definition from easily accessed Wikipedia:

Pet Peeve is a minor annoyance that an individual identifies as particularly annoying to him or her, to a greater degree than others may find it. First usage around 1919. The term is a back-formation from the 14th century word peevish, meaning "ornery or ill tempered".

Everyone has these. What bothers me, may not bother you. Things that annoy my husband, do not annoy me and vise versa. When I become annoyed by my own pet peeves, I try to remind myself that in all actuality, it's probably ONLY bothering me. However, there are some situations where I'm not alone in my pet peevishness. But, I'll start with my own personal pp's just because I feel like it today.

Recently I commented on a friend's Facebook post. We'd been going back and forth about the weather. That particular day, the morning temperature in my area was at 10 degrees. I posted, trying to be humorous, that when I went out to feed my horses that morning, they had icicles on their face whiskers. One of my Facebook friend's other friend,who I do not know and is not my friend anyway, posted, "Should horses be outside in this kind of weather?"  When I read that, my eyes rolled. I was going to post a response, but in Facebook's limited wall space, I just didn't want to get into details of the why it was not necessary for my horses to be inside during cold weather. That is, I don't barn my horses, they have a run-in shelter. A very nice one I might add. But, it did peeve me that this person didn't know enough about horses to realize, they can weather the weather if they're acclimated to it, well fed and watered.  I doubt all the people who own horses up in Canada have nice heated barns for their horses. I'm sure they have barns and run-ins but the horses get acclimated to the weather.

The post reminded be that these days people seem so wimpy to me sometimes! What do they think people did with horses a hundred or more years ago? Their barns sure weren't heated. They kept their horses fed with hay, hopefully inside some kind of shelter but not always, and did the best they could. Why would horses be any different these days, unless we made them that way? OK, so not all people are horse people or know facts about horses. But it seemed like an odd question that could have been answered by simple common sense observation.

More PP's: People who take in cats and dogs but refuse to have the neutered. I still hear of people locally who say the didn't want to do that to their cat or dog. Even if you can't afford it, there are shelters and vet clinics who advertise reduced or free spaying and neutering for people who may not otherwise be able to afford it.There really is no excuse for the attitude of not having your animals "fixed". Now, I don't think there should be laws about it because I've heard of that coming up in a couple of states, it's all about personal responsibility which seems entirely in the toilet these days.

Personal responsibility. Yeah, where is it? Seems our population wants the government to take care of us. I prefer to take care of myself, thank you very much!

Kids in restaurants. While naturally I would never think of considering the idea of banning children under the age of ....oh, I don't know, just children in general, in restaurants, and that would be silly anyway, I would really be super pleased if parents would take on some of that personal responsibility to keep their kids from running around the restaurant and screaming at the top of their lungs while I'm trying to enjoy a meal out with my husband. This happens more times than I can even count anymore and feels to me like it's an epidemic. I don't blame the child. They can only get away with what their parents ALLOW them to get away with. I've come to the conclusion that there is a generation of parents out there who have no clue how to raise their kids. I can guarantee, when our boys were little and we took the special occasion to go to a sit down restaurant, they SAT in their chairs. They did not scream. They did not cry. They were instructed how we all behaved at a restaurant. We all had a great time.

Two examples in the past two weeks. I witnessed one little girl running around the tables, picking up salt shakers, moving things around on empty tables, while the parents watched, or didn't. Then, when the little girl was finally "asked" to come sit down she started screaming. The mother tried to talk to her, but the girl knew what she could get away with. You could see it on her face.Well, that was a fun dinner for us. When my husband went to get a pizza box to put our left overs in, the girl at the counter apologized. Well, not like it was her fault. Then yesterday, at yet another restaurant where I was having lunch with my mom, I noticed a little boy, about four, running up and down along side the booths. The mother just watched, said something to him but then never once made him stop while people were trying to walk through to get to their seats. I just don't get it! These are not isolated incidents. Watch around you how parents no longer seem to be parenting. It's scary to me.

Only two check outs open at a Walmart, at 9:30am when I have a basketful of items and the two check out lanes are for 20 items or less AND they both have lines four people long in each. What is wrong with this picture? That's one reason I detest Walmart these days.

And this PP which I know I've mentioned before, non return of phone messages, voice mails, and emails. That's just rude and I think more than just a pet peeve.

All right, I think I've done enough pet peeving for today! I feel better. It was good to get those off my chest! Now, if something could just be done about them so that I don't have to be annoyed!

Enjoy this life, it's the only one we've got right now!


Linda said...

Halleluja, Sister...Amen! Especially, your first pet peeve. Horses are amazing at weathering the cold. My bigger issues with them occurred when I did stall in the bad weather and then turned them out where they weren't used to the conditions. I mean, you do what you have to do and back then I had to board and stall them, but I sure like this better.

Rising Rainbow said...

I think I would rather have someone ask if horses can tolerate cold weather than to have them immiediately jump in and condemn when they don't know what they're talking about. Just a thought.

I couldn't agree more about responisbility. Too many people want to point the finger and blame someone else for their lives instead of stepping up to see what they can do to make things better. They're always going to be unhappy if they keep looking for solutions outside themselves.

Leslie said...

Linda,I've been having a couple of days of what I call being "edgy". So, naturally everything is more annoying when I'm thinking on my pet peeves. Especially after the check out lane incident yesterday morning!

Now, if the sun would just show itself, I believe I could get out of this edginess!

Leslie said...

Rising Rainbow, just checked into your profile. How wonderful you have Arabians! They are such elegant creatures. I worked with an older one a few years ago and he was SO very intelligent.Sometimes Arabians get a bad rap.

I will gladly share my horse knowledge with anyone who asks, so you're right, a sincere question would seem more appropriate. But, I guess people just think what they think sometimes.

It seems personal responsibility isn't something that's important to people anymore and it really bothers me. But, I know, I just have to move on and do what I know is right. I can't change everyone, maybe help a few people be more aware, but I think it's something people are either raised with or not.